When Self-Criticism Becomes Your Default Voice

Would you ever speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself?
Probably not. Yet for so many of us, self-criticism feels like second nature.

Why We’re So Hard on Ourselves

Self-criticism often comes from old beliefs, like thinking being tough on yourself will motivate you, or fearing that if you let up, you’ll lose control. But in reality, constant self-criticism usually leads to more anxiety, not more success.

How It Shows Up

• Beating yourself up over small mistakes

• Feeling like nothing you do is “good enough”

• Struggling to accept compliments

• Downplaying your wins

The Truth About Self-Talk

Your inner critic isn’t the truth, it’s a habit. And habits can be changed.

Shifting the Voice

• Notice the critic. Awareness is the first step.

• Ask: “Would I say this to someone I love?” If not, try a kinder alternative.

• Practice small affirmations. Even “I’m learning” is more powerful than “I’m failing.”

The Bottom Line

You don’t have to bully yourself into growth. Real change comes from compassion, not criticism. You deserve to speak to yourself with the same kindness you offer others. If you’re ready to quiet that inner critic, let’s work on building self-compassion together. Book a free consult to start the process.